I’ve been on HRT for 3 years, and I really have lost all hope that I will ever look like a girl or be gendered correctly or even just be treated with dignity. I’m really ugly and honestly I can tell, people lie and say well it’s your personality that matters. It’s really not that hard to see, and I am wondering if there is a point to spending 120 dollars a month, just for peace of mind.
Please don’t take this the wrong way, but some girls are just ugly? This isn’t even me making a judgement call on your pic, because even though I don’t think you’re ugly, telling you as much isn’t going to change your mind.
One of the most important things I learned during transition is that I can’t transition into a super model. I am what I am though, and no one can take that from me.
Being on hormones isn’t about being pretty, it’s about whether they’re right for you. Societal beauty standards are never going to provide you that validation, even if you meet that standard for now. Because you will grow old, and you won’t fit into them anymore. Self-love is forever though.
Cis here. Your piece of mind is the one you create. If you want to continue then please do. If you feel like you are wasting money then stop. The choice is yours, always has been, always will be. Do what is best for you. It doesn’t change anything about who you think you are : that’s all that matters.
wtf you definitely pass (tbh I’m a bit impressed)
yeah you should probably work on your appearance (like in general, foe example maybe eyebrows?) but you definitely do not look masculine.(also is it ok to comment here if I’m not trans? this community just pops up every now and then on my feed)
I’ve never been told this by a random person in public
Okay, I’m sorry, I don’t want to come across as being harassing, I came back to check on the post and see what other insights people offered. But I had to write a reply to this.
You do realise that it would be impossible for a random person in public to tell you that you pass right? People don’t just walk up to cis women and compliment them on passing as a woman. The only reason the person you’re replying too can is because of the context of being in a trans community…
No your not coming across as harassing sorry, I was meaning that I haven’t been gendered as a women by random people in public I interact with
voice training, posture, general attire, makeup etc also all contribute. my mother has consistently been misgendered throughout her life as a cis woman because she doesn’t wear makeup, has a particular posture from working out/physical labor, and wears like jeans and masc-cut t-shirts. all of these things can be changed and posture nor voice training require you have money if you already have internet access.
Yeah it’s absolutely okay to participate if you aren’t trans, as long as you’re doing so in good faith, which you are :) From the sidebar:
Anyone is welcome to participate in this community but disrupting the safety of this space for trans feminine people is unacceptable and will result in moderator action.
…so uhm I’m not sure about that “not trans” part anymore lol
Hehe oh sweetheart…you sound just like me on reddit ~7 years ago. Feel free to shoot me a DM if you’d like <3
