I have kids that I raise, they are great kids, I love them to death but if someone thinks kids aren’t a burden (of any sort) than they’re lying.
Who tf thinks they aren’t a burden, how is this an unpopular opinion?
Trust me, there are people who think it’s a sin to use the word “burden” when speaking of kids. They are insane IMO
Sounds like they have the unpopular opinion
There’s so much stigma around this sort of thing. It’s getting better, but the mindset that children are a gift and parents should be constantly grateful for that gift is still very prevalent.
The reality is that whilst children are absolutely incredible, life affirming and all that good stuff…an awful lot of being a parent is frankly, horrible.
People who believes in sin are insane. Pay them no mind
In the history of the world, probably only baby boomers and maybe some of X thought this. Any time else in history, kids are there only due to the desire to fuck. Hell, the Romans drove a plant extinct with their need for birth control.
“Babees are such miracles!”
Many people think it, few people say it out lout.
Today on wildly popular opinion
https://www.smbc-comics.com/comic/happiness-spigot
Best summary to this topic I’ve ever seen.
I kinda wish it would expand on the fact that for some people, the constant care and all that is not for them, and doesn’t make it “a good deal” Other than that it’s a great summary, coming from someone that doesn’t want any.
Children ARE a burden but entitled parents are a bigger burden.
Entitled parent: “I raised you, you owe me!!!”
Child: “you made a decision to bring me in to the world, I had no say in this at all”
I live them to death
Is that a typo or the unpopular part?
Lol thanks
Literally standing in my kitchen right now reading this at 645am, awake since 4 because my sick 2 year old has been crying and screaming non stop, my wife in bed upstairs with our 2 day old new born, and I’m covered in peanut butter trying to make a nutritious lunch for my 5 year old for school. I have to wake her up soon to get her started. Make eggs for breakfast.
Her booster seat isn’t fitting in the middle seat between my sons car seat and infant newborn car seat. So I have to fix that before we leave. My son is most likely drawing on the walls in the entertainment room.
And before 9 I need to feed the chickens and relieve my wife from her sleepless night with a newborn.
Burden is an understatement. Having a sore back is a burden. Having kids is a dynamic lifestyle change. And while sometimes I imagine not having kids and how amazing it would be to be free from that lifestyle, it always comes to the same conclusion: I wouldn’t exchange my family life for anything. My children are me and I wouldn’t remove them as much as I wouldn’t remove my back because it was sore.
If I don’t put gas in my car it won’t move. Fueling my car is a burden, but generally I think it is worth it.
Yes, don’t forget to fuel your kids.
Praising cars on lemmy? It’s a bold move, Cotton.
I would argue that fuel and kids are not a burden as it is a net positive. Burden would imply for no gain.
What a stupid post. No one thinks kids aren’t a burden.
Sounds like you just don’t know as many different types of people as you think you do. There are plenty of people who drone on endlessly about how children are nothing but a blessing, how perfect parenthood is, and a bunch of other lies that they may or may not actually believe.
than they are lying
? Really? Jesus fuck
Misspelled memes / titles get more attention and up votes :/
All humans are a burden
Amen, fellow misanthropist.
The benefit of kids is that on average they become less of a burden over time. meanwhile adults, especially of certain generations klinging to the means of production, power and denying political change necessary to keep the earth livable, are just becoming more of a fucking burden for everyone else every god damn year and they also act all smug about it.
klinging
Apparently you think life is just donkey Kong country?
what?
Solution: don’t have kids
Solution two: use protection
I went to a Nerd Night where a positive psychologist shared about PERMA, a break down of the pillars of being happy: Positive Emotion, Engagement, Relationships, Meaning, and Accomplishment.
Her take on kids (based on her research) was that P,E,R, and A definitely take a hit, but parents consistently had the highest happines when it came to Meaning in their life. Overall advice on the question of “Do kids make you more happy than no kids?” was “It really depends on the person.”
Yup.
I’ve got two (5,1). I absolutely adore them both, but I’d be lying if I said that having kids hasn’t made my life significantly harder, my mental health significantly worse and my sense of self significantly weaker.
I’m convinced that having kids causes a brain chemistry change that makes parents willing to deal with their children. Otherwise, the majority of people would never have kids or abandon them shortly after birth.
My mom says babies are cute because otherwise more would end up in dumpsters.
She also told me she didn’t like kids. I asked her why she had so many, then? “Well, I like you all NOW, I knew you would grow up.”
Which, while sort of a mean thing for her to say, I think does make sense - people always say they don’t want kids, understandable, but kids are just young humans, you were a kid too. You aren’t having kids, you are growing people. Adults.
Idk how unpopular this is. Everyone I’ve ever talked to said that children are a burden. Of course they are. It’s hard work to grow plant, lol, and these are whole people. The acronym DINK exists for a reason. That said, it’s a worthwhile burden. I love being a parent.
Who have you met that said raising kids isn’t a burden?
