• Hoimo
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    3 days ago

    Oof, that hit me harder than I expected. I imagine love is one of those things that get easier once you’ve done it once and know how to recognize it, but right now I wouldn’t know what it’s like at all. I’ve never in my life been in a situation where I thought I could make a move. I must have missed at least one opportunity, I refuse to believe I’ve never even stood a chance.

    Have you tried group travel? It allows you to interact with new people without any expectations. It’s also very low stakes because you don’t have to see any of those people again after the trip.

    • lilith267@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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      3 days ago

      After being a semi-whore in high school and having a long term ex: the only thing that’s changed for me is I no longer want people who are into me because they’re also lonely. It never lasts, or ends well, or goes well once they stop feeling lonely. I’ve never had someone tell me I’m a bad person or I could do something better, I just wasn’t what they actually want. And I have not leanred how love works in the slightest either lol

      • TotallynotJessica@lemmy.blahaj.zoneM
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        2 days ago

        That’s the strange part. I probably understand more about building a healthy relationship at an intellectual level. I know that you need to genuinely be good friends with someone for a relationship to last. I’ve seen such relationships, as well as those that didn’t have it, so I’m not clueless. The hard part is reaching out