• eestileib@sh.itjust.works
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    1 年前

    Ok. I am the last thing from a scenester so I’m sure you know better than me.

    I do think it’s kind of a bummer that I can’t get that in low-stakes pet play b/c everybody has built it up so much.

    • captainlezbian@lemmy.world
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      Ok yeah that’s weird. I’ve used them in scene without commitment and in my marriage as very much commitment. You just communicate about it. And ironically I’d never suspect a pet player is using it as a sign of a lifestyle dynamic because that’s a very different context. It’s us lifestyle power exchange folks and non-pup leatherfolks that use them that way.