It seems like all the onus is on to socialise in the meantime you are relentlessly judged for how you go about socialising or dating. I am on college right now and I am seriously struggling to make friendships. My anxiety is kinda on overdrive because of it. I am expected to know if I am welcome to come or not but if I am not supposed I am judged severely. Meanwhile there’s no one really coming up to me trying to help me. You know I’d like to just once be good enough for someone to come up to me and say that they just want to be around me. Enough of the guesswork. I am tired of it. I’m in my mid 20s just give me a fucking break at this point. So much of my “disability” would just go away if people had the decency to fucking educate themselves and expect me to know everything. I put myself out there and talk to people. I’ve done my fucking part.
A lot of people are ruined socially because of social media in my opinion. Consider that others may be feeling the same way.
I would recommend focusing on doing what you like instead of trying to force yourself into situations that you don’t. You’ll meet others along the way and you don’t even need to force it. Make the goal enjoying your time, enjoying the experience. Don’t make it about going to events you think you’ll like and then focusing in what others think about you. The people who hold you to some expectation in social situations that you aren’t interested in are not the friends you want.