• crackajack@reddthat.com
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        1 year ago

        I just explained it to another user that it could be population sampling bias because he could be in a place where people’s average height is tall for other places. I guess where I live, our height varies greatly despite the country’s average height is 5’9" according to Wikipedia. There are plenty of tall people over 5’5" but so are under.

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      1 year ago

      Yes, and there have been “plenty” of short NBA players too. That doesn’t change the fact that height is a massive advantage.

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        1 year ago

        Height confers advantage except dating is not NBA (and there are different sports where height is not a game changer like soccer but I don’t want to make dating like a trivial game). If you let negative externalities get into your head, it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy because it will always show. Women (and men) are not attracted to low self-esteem. Self-confidence attracts. Find a person who likes you for being you.

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            Only how you react is what you can control. You can choose self-pity, but what good does it do to yourself?

            A woman rejects you, sure. You’re berated for being short. But you’re caring about the negativity of those who don’t care about you. You’re letting them live rent-free in your mind when they let go of you already. There are 8 billion people in the world and only those who cares about you matters, and not those who reject you for arbitrary, shallow reasons.

            Just saying, there are less good looking and shorter men out there who has more luck than you and I. It doesn’t matter if they are settling down for less, or the guy has more money. If they can do it, you can! It is easier said than done, but it is about the state of mind. Have you been with a person who is always negative and/or uninteresting? How did you you feel being around with that person? Would you like to be with that person again? Low self-esteem always shows no matter how hard a person tries to hide it and it is a turn off, wouldn’t you agree? Do you like a confident partner? And likewise, they want a confident you.