• Lmaydev@programming.dev
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    1 year ago

    You don’t allow others to do anything.

    Chances are they aren’t going to change because you get pissed about. You’re just going to waste you energy on it. Like arguing on here or Reddit.

    It’s much less effort to just let things go.

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      1 year ago

      Letting go and forgiving are 2 different things. Letting go is allowing yourself to move on from what happened, which is good. Forgiving is saying that they are no longer accountable for what happened, which is good if they’ve realized that they did you wrong and have made steps to prevent it from happening in the future, but otherwise is just letting them off the hook for something they’ll likely continue to do.

      Forgiveness is a gift you give to someone to show they’ve grown as a person, and shouldn’t be given to someone who hasn’t grown enough to realize what they did was wrong. In that event, absolutely allow yourself to let go and move on, but to not give the other person the gift of forgiveness if they haven’t earned it.