• Krauerking@lemy.lol
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      10 months ago

      So you were… Pulling him out of the bucket by calling him friend when I said fuck that life is about making of what you got and good luck? Or am I pulling you down by admitting it’s a myriad of situational aspects that define a person as much as their own personal values? Which part allows you to see me as a cruel force bringing others down? Cause that was pretty esoteric as far as responses go.

      Are you just telling me that you caught a lot of crabs in a bucket and you just want to show off the cool thing you found? Or are you mad at me cause I interrupted your rather blase show of altruism for self feel good points to point out that words kinda mean nothing? And it hurt your ideas that these words are deeply meaningful and impactful. Saying you are a friend and being a friend are different things. People talk about the things said that pulled them out but not as much about the importance of who said it. Which is honestly more important and why finding a therapist whom’s opinion you take seriously is more important than the smartest one. (Unless that’s how you decide trust)

      I get that it feels good and feels like helping but know that the sappyness doesn’t stick as well digitally and “fuck it” is sometimes just as an assuring thought as “chin up” for a person. People like feeling seen, and sharing just to hear someone hears it. And Internet platitudes are often junk food for the soul. No substance, just makes you feel good for a little then it is back to yearning. Happiness isn’t a constant feeling. I’m sure they will feel it but it doesn’t mean the rest doesn’t hurt waiting for the next meal.