• BURN@lemmy.world
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    1 year ago

    Because most of the time they’re not leaving you out because they’re doing it intentionally, but because everyone else already has the info, you’re just making it much harder to invite yourself.

    I was this person. I got left out of a lot of stuff because I wouldn’t join group chats. It’s not a hill worth dying on.

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      1 year ago

      I would say not inviting that person is doing it intentionally, as everyone knows that person isn’t in the group chat. Also, it does not make you much harder to invite, it’s literally just letting your friend know outside of the group chat.

      If your friends leave you out of things for this reason, they don’t want to hang out with you very much.

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        1 year ago

        I’m 21 and a decent amount of my friends assume I’m already in the group chats where plans are made, and when they remember I’m not, push me to get an iPhone instead of switching to a platform where I can be included. It’s shitty, but everyone else gets the info so it’s okay.

        Even my 36-year-old cousin said she wouldn’t date anyone who didn’t have an iPhone.

        At this point, I’m happy Instagram has come up as a platform everyone usually has an account on (even if it fucking sucks) just so that I am accessible for friends to easily add me to groups.

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          When I quit mainstream social media platforms half of my friend added me on signal and the other half agreed to just text me. Would I miss out on some group events? Maybe, but I don’t need to be in every one of them. If I want any sort of group gathering I’d just organize one.

          Your cousin just sounds miserable and it’s really her loss for judging people by a tool of communication.

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          1 year ago

          You have no standards for privacy, if you cannot stand your ground. If you are so desperate for socialising that you cannot find a different set of friends, you will never really form lasting bonds.

          Even my 36-year-old cousin said she wouldn’t date anyone who didn’t have an iPhone.

          She has a shallow character. I would reject just after hearing that.