• AnarchistArtificer@slrpnk.net
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      7 months ago

      Sometimes my heart wants to resent people like you for having supportive parents, but that’s coming from an hurt and irrational part of me that’s valid, but not useful to listen to. I’m glad that people like you and your parents exist, and I’m glad for your comment here, because even though I’m a long way away from my parents, it’s useful to be reminded that my experience was not normal and it wasn’t okay. Thanks for helping remind me and hopefully others that we deserve(d) a safe family home

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      7 months ago

      Same. They always tried their best to give me the childhood they wish they had; to avoid passing on trauma they experienced. The cycle can be broken.

      To any future parents who had traumatic childhoods, just know that you can give someone else what you deserved. You aren’t destined to become your parents. Your kids will appreciate having good parents once they grow up. It’s hard not to once you learn about the pain most people experience.

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      7 months ago

      My parents are lovely and supportive but they’re old and cranky and neurotic too. Because I live at home I’m always involved with family drama and seeing their health deteriorate is also stressful.

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        7 months ago

        Visit them often, hug them, thank them for being great parents and be genuinely sad after their death, but then feeling better by remembering and cherishing every moment you had with them.

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      7 months ago

      Same, but now my brother has our retired father and I have our mom.

      It’s not perfect, but my dog loves having a human around all day.