Remind me that its worth it and it gets better.
Just had Baby #2 a few weeks ago and I somehow forgot how isolating and challenging the newborn stage is. Maybe a growth spurt but the excessive crying and inconsolable behaviors, the sleep deprivation, the loss of ones self, no support outside of dad…
Marriage seems to have a harder time through this one too. The bonding with baby is difficult. Everyone keeps telling me how big my baby is and how she looks like a boy. My body has permanent reminders of this decision.
I know about PPA and PPD. I fully recognize that the hormone dump is real. But please, other parents of multiples, remind me its temporary and that having a family of 4 is better than 3.
Four kids here. 8 (boy), 6 (girl), 4(girl), 1(girl). It really does get better. There are hard times, and sometimes you may regret it, but it always gets better. There are lots of great books out there to help you out. I’ve read a great deal of them, and I’d be happy to recommend as many as you need. There is a great podcast by Janet Lansbury called Unruffled. I highly recommend it.
I second Unruffled! Janet is awesome.