Something I’ve always wondered is what kind of women were in the lives of incel men when they were young. Did they have a bad relationship with their mother? Did they lack sisters or other female family members? Or is their family situation irrelevant? Maybe some particular situation in their early years caused them to develop a complex around women?
I would just like to say, that society didn’t just start “caring more about women’s issues over men’s issues” overnight. To get society to give a shit about women at all has been a constant, centuries-long battle fought by various feminists.
It’s not the effect of society “caring more about women” necessarily that you’re seeing, it’s the direct impact of a loooooong battle for recognition. I think that men could benefit from the same thing, because there are a lot of problems that men also face because of the same patriarchy that women face. The be strong, don’t show emotion, being to close to another man is gay type of rhetoric is extremely harmful.
When done in a good-faith way that’s not a disguised attempt to roll-back women’s rights as some men’s rights discussions can sometimes be, I (a feminist woman) am a huge advocate for healing our boys and men. Obviously changing the way we parent boys will help, but it also takes communities of already-grown men themselves to come together to do that work on themselves, as with any self-improvement.