Not strict as in beatings; strict as in limited screen time, set bedtime and morning call, curfew, chore schedule, healthy diet and mandatory regular exercise, no smartphone, etc. We have a 15-year-old son.
Not strict as in beatings; strict as in limited screen time, set bedtime and morning call, curfew, chore schedule, healthy diet and mandatory regular exercise, no smartphone, etc. We have a 15-year-old son.
This isn’t strict this is just going to make him hate you and never come back when leaving for good.
And he will be right.
What you do isn’t parenting, its prison like circumstances you create.
I don’t agree with this at all and my personal life experience tells me otherwise; but you have the right to your own opinion. In my eyes gen Z and alpha are the generations which lack discipline the most - and that’s a parenting failure.
Gen Z and alpha have more discipline than millennials and Boomers. I think you got brainwashed by idiots on ticktock or lemmygrad, you need to educate your child about the internet, but with 15 its almost to late for that.
Both new generation had to live with all the bullshit the boomers and millennials dumped on them and literary inherited a fucked up shit show from you. You keeping your child away from reality will fail massively. A 15 year old absolutely should have curfues and such, I agree on that, but no phone? What’s next? No door in his room so you can see what he is doing all day? He will live with the internet his whole life and you fail to educate him accordingly.
But from that statement its obvious that you just want to dump your wrongs and problems on others and blame them for it.
First sentence is factually incorrect, as proven by teachers and professors who work with kids / teens / young adults and have documented their observations. Where did I saw no phone? I said no smartphone. Where did I say he doesn’t use the Internet? I said screen time limits. He does use the Internet daily. You’re arguing against assumptions made in your own head.
Gen Z and alpha have more discipline than millennials and Boomers. I think you got brainwashed by idiots on ticktock or lemmygrad, you need to educate your child about the internet, but with 15 its almost to late for that.
Both new generation had to live with all the bullshit the boomers and millennials dumped on them and literary inherited a fucked up shit show from you. You keeping your child away from reality will fail massively. A 15 year old absolutely should have curfues and such, I agree on that, but no phone? What’s next? No door in his room so you can see what he is doing all day? He will live with the internet his whole life and you fail to educate him accordingly.
But from that statement its obvious that you just want to dump your wrongs and problems on others and blame them for it.
Set bedtime… Morning call… Mandatory exercise… No phone… ETC
You might need some parenting advice from other places that do way better than your place and the people around you. I’m not in favor of the BS some patents do where they don’t set rules at all but wow you take it way to far. This isn’t a the most extreme wins, patenting is finding a good way to raise a child and not a prisoner or someone that uses you like a doormat.
While I might even agree with you on the lack of discipline, I think you may be overcompensating, especially considering your son being 15 already.
Now, I may be biased as someone who has spent most of his waking time since teenage years figuring out how to convince computers to do my bidding but a daily screen time of just two hours doesn’t seem enough to build proper media literacy and an understanding of how modern technology actually works which to me is a serious concern in a world where almost every job requires us to interact with that technology. And a curfew that’s significantly more strict than what his friends have to obay will eventually make him an outsider.
We don’t know the full story and maybe he is happy with your methods but please please please talk to him about his feelings. I’ve seen hundreds if not thousands of young people who loathe their parents for their strict parenting methods but are too afraid to say something for fear of being punished with even stricter rules. Then, the second they turn 18, they break all ties and never look back.