I’m sorry, but the asshole here is your friend. First of all, “defanging” a spider will just kill the spider, slowly (see comment below).

And while they certainly aren’t for everybody, they actually are excellent pets if you know what you’re doing. Hell, I’ve kept a dozen Pterinochilus murinus, which are indeed assholes, still never got bitten.

People shouldn’t keep pets if they don’t know how to care for them.