I just want to add on this. I am also of Asian background but grew up in the West. I also noticed that many Asians view marriage in economics. I get told to marry a nurse because they are always in demand anywhere in the world and could easily travel and live in richer countries. But I already grew up here and have a pretty good job, so I don’t need to think about that kind of thing.

I understand where people are coming from, being married and having kids is expensive, but viewing marriage from economic point of view is pretty fucked up. I witnessed people being used as a way to get into greener pasture. I am not saying that you or your parents used your husband, but the practice of child marriage stems from the severely old and dangerous idea that women can’t fend for themselves and need a man. Sure, maybe that makes sense during the hunter gatherer days when food was scarce, but we don’t live in that era anymore. A lot of people simply pass on traditions without ever thinking as to the why, because too much time had passed to remember the reason, even if the tradition don’t even make sense with the passage of time.