looking at your pics, i am unable to even imagine you as anything other than a cute girl ✨🎀✨

and i’m completely serious about my envy 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥

OMG WTF!!!

HOW are you this GORGEOUS?!?

that figure! the long thick flowing hair! those legs! and then the dress, bow, and socks to show it all off!!

my envy burns 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥

(seriously wtf, you are ✨gorgeous✨)

Hi 😊 Apparently DMs between Lemmy and Kbin/Mbin still do not work, so I can only see DMs from other Kbin/Mbin users.

I’ve sent you a DM from my Lemmy account.

Thank you for making this community ❤️

I hope that Nev has something to share here soon 💝

Sending love and support to you and everyone stuck in Florida ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

Hiya. It’s kinda hard for me to pulll away from Matrix and the friends that I’ve made there, and I’ve not been good about remembering to come back here to the fediverse. I really created this thread looking specifically for people to meet offline. If you’re looking for more offine friends, you might want to join us on Matrix.

Also, thank you for saying my name 😊 It feels so nice to see.

I appreciate the advice, but I would sooner harm myself than go back to facebook (sorry if that’s too dark). If my choices in life are between being surrounded by friends while all interactions are monitored closely by facebook, or being forever alone and disallowed from human experiences, then there’s really nothing here for me anymore. I hope it doesn’t come to that.

I do advise keeping an eye open for opportunities elsewhere.

I have been wanted to evacuate soon, but my heart is pulling me in lots of different directions, and I don’t really know which path to follow.

In the meantime, you’re not going to be a fan of this advice, but discord is a good place to find communities.

Yeah, that’s what my friend Lacey was telling me. I just can’t do that right now. Making these posts is difficult enough.

Thank you for the well wishes.

omg that is so good to know! thank you thank you! that is like the missing puzzle piece that actually calmed my mind about it. i should still get a therapist tho.

A small amount of hairs will always grow back.

Yeah, that’s what I was saying on matrix is what concerns me. Like, I’m thinking I just want the most permanent removal possible. I’m such a perfectionist, and it causes bad thoughts to consider flaws and stuff. I really need to find a surgeon and go over this stuff. Also a therapist would probably help a lot right now…

I get the suspicion that some of the more spirited discussions so far came with a tinge of suspicion that I’m one of the bad folks looking to invade spaces and sow discord,

Yeah, we generally have to have our guard up, especially in these types of threads. I don’t know if you’re familiar with the “just asking questions” type of transphobe, but it is a very real problem for communities like this one. The topic or phrasing of a question can raise red-flags for sure.

But I believe that you’re being sincere.

For some of us yes, and for others no.

It’s difficult for me to even imagine the complexities of such a world that lacks gender norms. Would there be fewer trans people? Possibly. But in such a world, there would still be trans people like me that feel a strong need for surgery.

Edit: Forgot to mention HRT, which many of us would still need.

Yay!! Thank you so much for this wonderful place!

💖️🥰️💖️

If reports are federating across, then a good deal of them could be from me. Is it necessary to report each one, so they can all be dealt with, or is that just annoying? I thought that they stack to the same user and that mods can easily mass-delete. Is that not how it works?

I don’t like Lemmy, since it requires javascript, and I definitely don’t want an account on a troll farm instance. I messaged my admin.

Okay, so here is a running list of the recent transphobic trolls from lemmy.today

• @DiscordMod1990yyyyx@lemmy.today
• @TiredOfWokeMods@lemmy.today
• @Hshsjsjsjjsnsnshs555@lemmy.today
• @VeganTomato@lemmy.today
• @Vegan2mato@lemmy.today

There is definitely a problem of transphobic trolls coming from that instance.

I browsed the communities on their instance using mlmym so I could see the full list. Then I tried to access the lemmytoday community from my Mbin account, and I got a 404 error.

So that’s what I meant when I said I can’t report things to the admins on lemmy.today, since I can’t post on their dedicated community.

I’ve noticed recently that my instance can’t fetch new communities anymore. For instance, I fetched all of the good LGBTQ+ accounts months ago without an account, and they all eventually federated across. But I can’t fetch asktransgender@lemmy.blahaj.zone or any other communities that aren’t already federated. I was thankfully able to fetch trans@lemmy.blahaj.zone before this issue.

On another note, if moderator actions don’t federate across instances, does that mean when I see this:

[Thread, post or comment was deleted by the moderator]

the comment was deleted by a moderator on my Mbin instance, rather than a moderator on Blahaj? In that case, I would think my reports are working.

Oh, okay. I thought that de-federated instances couldn’t interact at all, but I guess one-way interactions are still possible. Interesting. Thanks for the info.

I can’t seem to interact with any communities from that instance, so I can’t report anything to their admins.

The eviltoast.org instance doesn’t seem to have much local content, and a recent post asks:

Why has Lemmy.ml and feddit.UK defederated from eviltoast

My instance seems to have de-federated from it already as well.

The lemmy.today instance has more local content and engagement, but I can’t seem to interact with its communities from my Mbin account. So I can’t contact their admins and report issues.

Maybe the mod from Blahaj that removed their content can report the problem to their instance?