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  • The story isn’t about them being gay. Its about them being in love and dealing with the post apocalyptic bullshit along with their relationship. To call it a “gay story” is to single out the one tiny part of it that is them being gay and reduce the whole thing to that. I doubt you’d just classify Schindlers list as a “Jew story” or Black panther as a “Black story”. I do like how you slipped from it being a “gay story” to a “gay love story” tho, nice save. The quote was about people calling it a gay story, not a gay love story. I think even subconsciously you understand that “gay story” is not really a good way to summarize that story.

    In no world is somebody asking for more detail on a story going to want to hear “its a gay story” and be satisfied. If they want details you’d tell them more, and if they didn’t a more accurate summary would be “love story” or even “post apocalyptic gay love story” but just “gay story” is like calling lord of the rings a “travel diary”








  • If you are getting the game on steam keep in mind the last update broke basically all the old mods, and it was late enough after development that they didn’t really get updates. If you want to mod the game or avoid it pestering you about logging into epic use the older version you can apply in the properties of the game in steam.

    Also know that if you want to play coop ymmv, its a fun game but crashes and disconnects are common, and your progress with your friend might desync if you disconnect, so you may need to juggle who is hosting.

    TLDR: good game, buggy coop, mod scene is sort of complicated due to late stage patches to implement EGS stuff.





  • I know my context here is different, but sharing my screen is an easy and quick way to show how to do something. I use discord constantly to show what setting to change, or what order mods should be in for friends, or how to set up that V rising server with the save file from last time, or how to fix that weird bug that my buddy describes and I immediately recall and know how to fix.

    There are times a proper video or document are better, but I’d argue only when you’re showing or teaching a process to a large number of people, over a spread out period of time, like a doc on how to set up your company email for new hires or something like that.

    If its a short demo in a meeting for a simple process or temporary issue, its just a huge time saver to be able to just show people how to do it right then and there. Plus a screen share can be flexible enough to answer unexpected questions or issues that a static doc might not, like if tim has his start menu on the side, or mary doesn’t have the right directx version installed and you gotta swerve to fix the edge cases. Hard with a static doc or premade vid, easy with a screen share.

    If it can be explained in a premade video or a slideshow it probably doesn’t need to be a meeting anyways. Just send it out and deal with issues as they arise.

    Of course I come at the concept more from a basic IT perspective so ymmv, but for me its a very useful and flexible tool that can save me time and make explaining things much simpler.



  • I’m trans. I think the reason people get upset is because of the reason behind the preference. That reason can be totally valid, to totally shitty, and people assume either the best or the worst depending on their perspective usually. A trans person seeing this might assume “oh boy another transphobe” while a cis person would think “yep and I won’t date a person who owns cats because I’m deadly allergic” and carry on.

    On top of that a blanket “I won’t date trans people” rule tends to ignore “outliers” like nonbinary, intersex, or gender fluid people, which can feel pretty bad when the underlying reason doesn’t fit the actual real life scenario you might be in.

    Here’s a few reasons behind the preference that I can think of:

    • I’m straight and want bio kids - Fair enough, either your partner is cis or they aren’t compatible for that goal, or you’re getting into the nonbinary grey area.

    • I don’t want to deal with the extra baggage, potential judgement from peers, or mental/physical health comorbidities that come with transition - kinda bleh but its your choice and only you can really decide what you’re willing to invite on yourself, but it feels crappy for trans people who definitely didn’t ask to be trans either.

    • I’m attracted to specific genital configurations - that’s your preference, but it sort of ignores any post op trans people, which feels really shitty if as a trans person you’ve done this major surgery to be happier and more yourself, and people just assume you haven’t, and won’t talk to or engage with you over something you already changed, through a very intensive and difficult process. Overall though genital preferences are perfectly fine, people just don’t like saying “I only like penis” because it sounds weird, so they substitute “I only like cis men” thinking that’s a less awkward alternative.

    • I don’t think trans people are who they identify as - real shit and the kind of people most are actually mad at when people day "I won’t date trans people.

    Anyways, I’m sure there are more, but the point I’m trying to make is, saying you won’t date trans people is just kinda vague. Many people will assume the worst, which is on them, but it would help to clarify and be clear about what your real preference is, or why you have it. For instance “I want to have bio kids someday, so if we aren’t compatible on that level then that is a dealbreaker” or “I’m straight and I’m only interested in Cis or post op trans women” which with a couple extra words clearly portrays that its a genital preference without explicitly saying it.

    TLDR: having preferences is perfectly fine but when people judge you it’s because it isn’t clear why you have that preference, and usually ignores outliers. Clarification, while maybe a bit longer or more complicated, would eliminate the anger in most cases. The people who still get upset are likely to be angry no matter what.



  • The difference would be the phrasing and specifics. “Magically switch trans people to the assigned sex at birth that they desire to be?” Works for some. “Magically make trans people’s bodies align with their specific and nuanced gender identity” is less of an issue. The problem you run into with the first is some are not interested in surgeries or are non binary so a full surprise sex swap would not be what some trans people want.

    I still think consent is important though, even if the way the magic works is basically “they get what they want”. As much as it is hard to imagine, there are also trans people who do not want to transition at all due to having family or friends who would cut them off (I think that’s a pretty awful and tragic situation to be in, but imagine the trans woman who magically changes to the shock and anger of her deeply religious family or SO, who then ostracize or reject her, or even react violently). You aren’t likely to be murdered for recovering from cancer, but in some places magically shifting assigned sex might come with some pretty awful, bigoted strings attached


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    5 months ago

    My SO works fast food. Corporate never allocates enough hours so they’re perpetually understaffed, but the store manager has permission to call people in if needed. So there’s a lot of “your scheduled 10-4, but at 3:30 I’m gonna ask if you’ll stay to 6, or I’ll call you 2 hours before your shift to see if you can come in early”.

    Its a lose lose, nobody gets the hours they want, manager can’t retain workers, people hate being called in or asked to stay late, and the schedule is always shorthanded and mostly a suggestion. Of course nobody wants to work in that shitty mess of cost cutting and begging employees to pick up the slack that the MBAs at corporate have caused.