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Cake day: July 6th, 2023

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  • Why does it have to be both?

    Why do other orientations get to be easy to understand, but the ones that just want to say ‘no’ absolutely must be comfortable in the same label as yet another ’yes’?

    What is wrong with having graysexuality and asexuality be as separate as homosexuality and heterosexuality?

    Why do people want to force others to be comfortable with what they’re not comfortable with?

    Why is it so important to dismiss and erase people who just don’t have a sexuality that it’s acceptable to take over their one safe word and sexualize it?

    I genuinely find antisex spaces more welcoming than asexual spaces and I hate that. Because people born without sexuality often don’t care about other people having sex. It’s normal, it’s natural, it’s fine, it’s just not our thing. So why do people insist on sexual themes in a community started to be safe for those who are just born not sexual?

    Many of us already feel broken when we don’t get horny as teens. Yes, we’re freaks. We’re weirdos. We’re biological failures.

    We create a space to feel not broken. To vent among others born the same. So why take that away? Why take away the one safe term for people who already struggle with feeling like something is wrong with them by coming in and saying that people who DO like sex are the same label and the ones who don’t want sex at all are outsiders among outsiders?

    It hurts. It genuinely hurts to finally find others like you, to then be told that no, you’re still a weird broken minority even in this supposedly “fitting” label.

    Why is it so important to have a special label that it’s worth hurting the people it was made for to make sure more people can claim it?







  • If you will buy it, they will sell it.

    Corperations are not people. They have no moral compass. They do what their customers will pay for.

    Customers are people. Customers can choose based on any criteria. Convenience, morals, pleasure, whatever they value.

    You are the customer. By buying from animal agriculture, you are saying you value what they are selling.

    Yes, the thousands, millions, billions of customers matter. YOU are a customer. YOU MATTER. And if you choose to value something that is pure evil for all involved except your taste buds and their bottom line, then yes. You share in the blame. Especially now that you know what it causes.




  • So far as I know, they’re not shoving 20 ads in your face on every screen.

    I know they’re far from perfect. Heck they have a forced arbitration clause in their ToS.

    But compared to other services lately, Discord seems to mostly be trying to treat users as customers instead of products for advertisers. I’ll take it, and get some neat conveniences from Discord in turn.


  • Vegans simply existing make people feel uncomfortable, so defense mechanisms in the brain trigger.

    Since it’s an ethical stance, and people at least deep down know that killing innocent animals for 5 minutes of taste pleasure is wrong, but they don’t want to change themselves.

    So the brain tries to rationalize how it’s definitely not wrong and really the vegan is wrong, and/or demonize the position to shield itself from the discomfort of knowing.

    Basically psychological defenses kick in to defend unethical behavior that someone highlights by simply existing.





  • Why do people whose sexual preference is “no” have to add an extra tag to what was already a perfectly useable term? Why overcomplicate?

    Sexual people have decided that the term is now their term as well, when it was previously a safe way to say in one simple word “I’m not into sex at all”.

    This is just bullying people away from their own term, because we’re after a way to clearly communicate no.

    The examples you gave are of desperation and exploration. If you try sex and decided “Yes, I like this” then that’s not a sexual preference of “no”.

    It’s not bad to be sexual. At all. In fact, most people are and THAT IS OKAY.

    It is annoying (and harmful, because it encourages people to see “asexual” as “still likes sex for my sake!”) to take the word “asexual” and say “Yes asexual people still want sex!”

    Let people who don’t like sex have one safe way to say it without being lumped in with a sex-enjoying group. Please. Why is it so important to take that away.


  • My sexual preference Is “no” and I have to say that instead of asexual because sexual people have decided that the prefix “a” in front of the word “sexual” does not mean “not sexual”.

    What used to be safe spaces for people whose sexual preference is “no” are now filled with people whose sexual preference is “yes, but I don’t feel horny by looking at people”.

    And if anyone dare speaks up they get bullied, called acephobic, and told to just accept asexual people are sexual too and how dare we say please use a different label for that.

    I am far from the only one who’s noticed this. It also leads to things like romantic asexuals (people who want a romantic relationship just without sex) having a harder time than they already did because people are learning “Oh your ace? But you’ll have sex for ME, right?”