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Cake day: July 1st, 2023

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  • One of my close friends from college went deep down the fat acceptance rabbit hole shortly after college. I had to unfollow her on social media. She went from being a slightly overweight girl to a morbidly obese woman. She had a podcast she’d promote saying things like it’s ok to eat cake for breakfast if you want it; weight is just a number and all kinds of asinine things.

    My weight has fluctuated over the years, but any time I’m putting on weight, I know it’s unhealthy and I need to start going to the gym and eating better. Seeing her posts would drive me up the wall. She had one where she said something about how the gym is toxic, and you’re just fine the way you are, and you can be healthy without exercising. She also was selling some plus size clothing pyramid scheme and claimed to be a model for the company. I don’t think it was a defense mechanism, just another ridiculously bad side effect of echo chambers on social media.


















  • I’m a white guy, but can speak pretty decent Spanish. Oftentimes back when I was working retail, if someone was struggling with English, I wouldn’t even bother pulling out the Spanish because like you said, it often would have the opposite effect and make them upset. Basically my rule was I only used it if the customer could speak no English at all, and was looking for an interpreter, and there wasn’t any Latino coworkers around to help them. It sucks because I learned the language wanting to be able to use it. I did one time catch an unassuming abuela tell her daughter that I was hot. I couldn’t resist n said gracias… If you could see her face man.