I’ve had these. Usually related to those I am close with. Dreams of bad things happening to them or dreams of intense jealousy. They make me wake up in a panic. I’m 37 now but only been getting help I the last year or so.

My therapist advised me that (at least in my case) these don’t nessary reflect who I am in waking world. the reasons these dreams disturb me is because they counter my views of myself.

It’s like if I dream of myself committing a grievously violent murder and I wake up disturbed. That doesn’t mean I have a desire to hurt people it means the opposite.

Your own case may be different but you can’t really stop bad dreams. Dreams are a symtomn of bad sleep so you can work on improving that. What you can do is learn how to process a dream and have it affect you less negatively.

Good luck.

Great podcast about this https://youtu.be/epkCrB8aKXA?si=39bXXQQihqmWFSLm

Such an educator.

Now you can relax with a delicious bowl of granny creams.

I’ve spent 2 months transcribing an entire poorly written text book into a Google doc. I’m now taking that transcription and having chat gpt rewrite it all for readability. All so I can maybe pass certification exam.

The problem is less with us and more with academia having developed an highly oppressive way of writing things. But from my perspective it’s just sloppy unreadable garbage.

AI has been great I can just give It the promt “make this concise and readable using only common language” and it will take entire chapters down to simple point form lists for me.

I also use goblin tools for writing.

Have you seen that new tribe, the savages don’t even have skull spikes everywhere. We should donate some skulls to them they’ll make some skullspikes like a proper civilized tribe.

What is this? did they bring back the Doozy Bots?

Comming from a simular situation. So the best I can give is my own story.

Nearing my 40s. More of a rimworld/minecrafter. Every day off work, every waking minute im in a game.

short version of a long story. I’m experiencing huge life changes. Therapy and friends convinced me to remove one of the major causes of my isolation. And with it going away I saw just how isolated I actually was all this time. I saw how badly it has affected me. The negativity is part of that. It’s like a symptom of isolation poisoning.

I feel for the first time that I’ve wasted so much time. I didn’t value making friends or seeking a life parter. Though having made a friend everything changed.

Honestly the desire to play games is fading and it now feels bad to play games all day. Making a real friend who is postive made me want to be more positive i leared that it’s a genuinely good feeling.

Isolation is comfortable but it comes at a cost you may not see. It’s good to go out and get some perspective occasionally.

It’s been recommended on here a few times but I’m finding that Goblin tools the judge tool is pretty good. If thats not cutting it I just have chat gpt do the whole letter. I’d generate one from scratch or have it make my existing letter “more readible” and ask it to be “less wordy”.

The frequent over apologizing was a thing I had issues with as well. I focused on stopping because I realized it can be negative for those you communicate with.

Apologies are hard to reply too. So if your apologizing all the time your are putting a burden on them to acknowledge it. This can strain communication over time.

Also, like other things, overuse of apologies weakens them. If your a little more picky about when to apologize it will make them more genuine. This is also why I avoid yelling and cursing. So when I do those things, the expression has some potency.

Lasty it’s unprofessional in written communications. This is probably a more controversial opinion. But for the reasons above and because it can make your communication less concise. In the professional environment being clear and concise is more important then being polite. (Though you still need to be polite).

The added bonus is that doing this will make you sound more confident.

Normal people: “what a nice flower” Undertale fans: “this place is cursed and we must leave immediately”

I heard of this one. I can’t help but think that this guy was just killed because it will be cheaper in the long run to excute him rather then pay to keep him in prison. I dont think this was about mercy, rehabilitation or justice it was about profit and the value of human lives.

Also just being realistic those parachute are probably just going to be questionable bargin bulk buys. They’d be designed to be as cheap as possible while just barely passing legal standards. They never be maintained or inspected. And there’s no way they support my 6’5" 300lbs ass as my frozen corps plummets to the earth below.

I like that way if thinking of it. I’m a big supporter of story based education so we can actually teach others with this idea.

Though I won’t argue the truth on that in some cases it’s not relevant to this situation.Your making a lot of assumptions here, and that might be my own lack of clarity in writing.

Intrusive thoughts do not represent actual conscious feeling, this is why they are so repulsive to those experiencing them. They can be sexual sure. Intrusive thoughts can also be extreamly violent, or just weird. As an Ace I really do not like sexual thoughts and the conscious part of my brain whould much prefer focusing on work or food.

We all do this to varying degrees. We can have fantasies about driving certian politicians into a slow chipper but that doesn’t mean I actually want to harm people. Maybe you want to beat a man to death for cutting you off in traffic. I’d be much happier if my mind didn’t go to such places but it does, in a more functional awake state the idea churns my stomach.

I do wonder if being autistic means we are just more in touch with, and more repulsed by, our Intrusive thoughts.

Also there is no females involved, I’ve never had intrest in men on any level but Intrusive thoughts don’t really work in sensible way.

Half as interesting just did a video on this

https://youtu.be/3i_RyiQ3-Ak?si=DRWUQw0FHnHRDsts

This is what I mean. You’ve said it in a much clearer way then I could have. The hard part is going to be defining it. Autism is, from what I understand, huge and nebulous. It’s not impossible though.

I’ve been learning project management myself. Trying to get a certification. This is also a huge subject that is constantly growing and changing. As such defining what it is has to have built In subjectivity. Having concrete standards on such a thing is at best messy, but we can do it.

That’s just shameful. I got special ed growing up usually they just give us French language education exemptions to take the extra class. It wasn’t much, mostly just giving me extra time for homework, in my case it was extra computer usage and typing ( I was the only student getting this in my school) it helped a lot and is a huge part of my current career. I hope Germany realizes its a mistake to deny this critical education.

Oh! Defeating ignorance for sure. Sorry I should have been more clear about that.

My autism is one of the few things I don’t seem to hate about myself. And it’s also a part of many of those I love and respect. I whouldnt change them for anything.

I just dont like to think of others as being assholes intentionally. I like the idea of Hanlons razor.

Growing up in the early 90s I had thought autism was a form of down syndrome and i was tossing around the R word without a care. But without the internet, and living out in a tiny village, how whould I have learned better? The teachers didn’t know, and neither did my parents. It was like autism hadnt been discovered yet.

even if I could tell my past self that he was autistic, he’d have no idea what that means or have any resources to learn about it. I think much of the older generations are still in that state. They’ve never had to learn what autism is so whatever misinformation they have about it is what they are going with.

We’d need to have everyone unlearn and relearn what they know, and that’s a massive challenge.

To be fair most don’t even know what it is. Ignorance and stupidity lead to harm. Not to excuse the lack acceptance but understanding it’s source is how we can defeat it.

This partly because the science isn’t quite there yet. We’ve come a long way in our understanding but still have far to go I think. unfortunately the general public isn’t patient, if the science isn’t well established they just seem to ignore it.

There’s also still a lack of accessibility for assements and resources. In Canada it took me over 2 years to get my assessment and the process was terribly unorganized. I was told I’d get some free classes on “so your are autistic, now what” but that never came and our provincial primire made huge cuts to our programs (genuinely hate that guy).

This isn’t to excuse the “others” but for empathy many of them may be part of our group and not know it.

It’s tough but it’s on us to reach out to those around us and try to explain things. Pave the way for the autistic folk of the future.