I think polyamory is an immutable part of someone’s sexual orientation as much as the gender preference spectrum (homo/heterosexual) and the intensity/situationalness (ace/gray-ace/demi). I think some people just naturally see sex and intimate relationships as something they can do openly with multiple people and some people just don’t. I think it will become more acceptable for the people who see sex that way to find each other and express their love that way, the same as with all the other sexual relationships between consenting adults are becoming more acceptable. But the same way it would be silly to say we’ll all be homosexual eventually I don’t think we’ll all be poly someday either.

No I did it because the comment suggested it and it seemed like a cool idea. When someone programs a wholeass bot just to make it easy for me to be nice, I’m much obliged.

Addictions often stem from a lack of stimulating activities or connection to others. The recent retirement supports this, as he would have lost both at that time. So he needs to get into some hobby that’s less likely to leave him homeless, but that is gonna fill those needs. You gotta find him somewhere to go that’s outside the house that he can:

1. mostly rest/vegetate
2. occasionally get rewarded
3. do either alone or with a trusted friend
4. consume mind altering substances while vegetating (usually alcohol)

With all this in mind I now realize why there’s so many jokes about old dudes fishing. Do with that what you will.

But yeah. You should start some kind of multi generational hobby club for how to sit around and all be dudes together. There’s probably some younger men out there who missed that part during COVID too so like. And figure out some activity that’s not going to be horribly boring to the younger adults that won’t be horribly overstimulating to the older adults.

I’ve always thought the answer to the whole men’s mental health crisis we’re seeing today (I work in inpatient mental health) was getting men to connect better with each other in addition to women. A lot of guys say they weren’t taught to talk about their feelings which means not only are they losing a lot of opportunity for emotional validation, but they’re losing that validation from where it would matter most; the people most like them. I say this because a bunch of young male patients keep asking me for life advice and I’m like bruh we both know nothing I say is gonna make a lick of sense I wasn’t raised in that box.

Wait do you know about “Will You Help Me Repair My Door?” or the Lawsuit?

Less restrictive environment so it takes us a second to get it reported. I wonder if lemmy has or could have a 30 day limit until you can interact with outside instances. Seems like a cool feature for federation in general. Would make it harder to make spam accounts.

From Amazon/target ads? The sketchiest ads I click on are probably temu.

Oh my algorithm is FUCKED because I’m so insanely curious.

So first of all I’m always googling stuff from medical procedures to culture and liguistics. That’s part of how I found out that apparently black Americans will sometimes get a nose job to confirm better to western beauty standards.

Second of all, I will click on everything that I can’t identify, which often turn out to be kitchen implements or specialized hobby equipment. One time I clicked on some weird looking shoes, shortly followed by some bizarre looking amorphous plastic things which turned out to be special climbing shoes and screw-in footholds, respectively.

So anyway, that’s the story of how Google adsense thinks I’m an African American woman who hates her nose but is also extremely passionate about indoor climbing (none of this is even remotely true).

Also scribus can be extremely clunky if you need to make flyers inkscape may be easier.

So I work 12 but because I’m a night nurse a lot of the time it’s just being there and monitoring, then occasionally doing something if the monitoring indicates the need. And particularly in psychiatry, a lot of the monitoring is passive. Sure I’ll go personally check on people every few hours (the techs do 15 minute checks) but a lot of my monitoring is poking my head out of the nursing station to whisper-yell “WHAT THE FUCK IS THAT NOISE” or jumping up when the floorstaff move too fast (some of our security who know me well will actually frantically gesture at me to sit the fuck back down they’re just showing their buddy a meme they got excited about).

Honestly I’d settle for making sure the doctors hand off q12h. They often work 48 hour shifts with even more disastrous possibilities.

12s do make sense in Healthcare where every handoff is an opportunity to miss important information. For instance if you forget to mention all the specifics of all your patients injuries after a car wreck, the next nurse might not realize their sinuses are cracked and just go ahead and insert that nasogastric feeding tube into their brain.

3 handoffs a day instead of 2 is 1.5 as many chances to make an error like that.

That said, 2x12s a week instead of 3 sounds lovely.

I’m a nurse and we were taught to educate patients at the fifth grade level as well. Believe it or not, the sex ed level is even lower! The average American seems to struggle with such topics as “it’s bad to touch or be touched when the person being touched doesn’t like it” and “don’t put random household objects in your butthole.”

90 degrees outside the car? The inside of that car is gonna BAKE. And 2 hours before and after high noon ain’t shit. cook those hoes.

apparently it’s practically impossible for me to catch bedbugs from a patient as a nurse. I can’t do my shoes in the dryer like that. I also couldn’t have done my leather jacket like that when my roomates caught me some fleas. Hot car is a fab solution in certain specific situations.

This is my favorite part about racists worrying about white people becoming a minority. It’s only because they don’t consider mixed kids as their progeny. Your “white” genes aren’t being murdered by “black” genes inside your grandaughter. They’re both just kinda in there and that’s fine.

I hear the instantpot was actually a common solution for remote medical facilities before they went under. Any pressure cooker would do though, as I understand it.

I don’t wash my hands at work to be sterile (most of the time). “Sterile” is different from “clean” in the terms I’m formally educated in. To follow that analogy I just want my info to be “clean.” I want to remove most of the stuff from immediate public access periodically. I utilize other stuff too like periodically changing usernames and whatnot, same as I change an isolation gown or strip and wash my clothes as soon as I get home. None of that guarantees perfect removal of 100% of microbes, and this won’t prevent all people ever from accessing my info. But that’s no reason to never even rinse my digital ass. I just want a digital-ass bidet, not a digital autoclave.

I don’t wash my hands at work to be sterile (most of the time). “Sterile” is different from “clean” in the terms I’m formally educated in. To follow that analogy I just want my info to be “clean.” I want to remove most of the stuff from immediate public access periodically. I utilize other stuff too like periodically changing usernames and whatnot, same as I change an isolation gown or strip and wash my clothes as soon as I get home. None of that guarantees perfect removal of 100% of microbes, and this won’t prevent all people ever from accessing my info. But that’s no reason to never even rinse my digital ass. I just want a digital-ass bidet, not a digital autoclave.

This is it 500%.

They needed to give people something to fight about.

I’m not even sure if I’m trans and I’m already prepping to fight people for my own existence because I know somebody somewhere needs to make my body evil so other people stop asking why they take all the money.

Fighting the moral existence of me and my body are just the next excuse for why you should give somebody who already has more money than God even more power and control (usually in the way of money).

Gotta fight me. How dare I not want to have the tits or uterus that grew on me. And to stop me from doing that you just have to give this other dude more money and more legislative control. You just have to stop asking for fair wages or safe working environments. Give this rando the power to tell you you’re a stupid poor who deserves to toil in pain and misery and he’ll save you from the fact that I just kinda personally don’t like having tiddies.

And the absolute bestest way to tell people I’m evil? Tell them I’ll tell their kids their bodies aren’t evil. Because that’s the truth. If some kid asks me if it’s ok that they don’t wanna have tits I’ll tell them that’s fine. And the ONLY thing worse than my body being evil is me telling your kid it’s ok for their body to be evil too.

It doesn’t matter that I’ll tell them to experiment with non-permanent things first and get their head on straight before they decide their body ain’t right. It doesn’t matter that I’ll ask them to examine their viewpoints on what gender even means before they make that decision. Hell I’d even tell a kid to make sure they’re not mistaking fat-shame for gender dysphoria. I would literally tell them to evaluate any other option before permanent body modification.

But the people telling girls they aren’t skinny enough but also their tits aren’t big enough and boys they aren’t skinny enough but also their muscles aren’t big enough are totally NOT the problem here.

No its more like. I’m not gonna let capitalism lie to me about whether or not I need five different flavors of cinnamon toast crunch (one of which will specifically target my interests / demographics!) to feel fulfilled.

That’s been going on way since the boomers and at least formally since the ww2 generation.

Telling you that you need all of these #options plus an #attractive celebrity to identify with and tell you which flavor to like is waaay older than anyone still alive now.