I also rest my fingers. I just got some 95g actuation. For me, perfect due to at my work using cut resistant gloves under latex gloves I miss fire cause I can’t feel a damned thing. For home/gaming use, hell no. 70-75 is good for me. Everyone is different though. By some try them out to figure what you like. They aren’t that expensive.
Can you shoot? Can you move? Can you communicate?
Then who the fuck cares who you prefer to be involved with!? Especially when a lot of soldiers/officers seem to like to be with other people’s wives/husbands!