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Cake day: June 17th, 2023

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  • For the most part, women aren’t saying that all men are dangerous.

    We’re saying that a significant percentage of them are—as established by the fact that the majority of women have experienced sexual harassment and/or assault at least once—and that “bad” men and “good” men are often indistinguishable from each other… for the first few minutes, hours, days, months, or even years of knowing them.

    And then there are the many men who may not actively harass or assault women, but look away and remain silent when they witness their friends doing it. Those men are unsafe, too.

    Anyone who perceives this hypothetical situation as “sexist” is not bothering to actually listen to what women are saying, which tracks. Hit dogs holler.



  • You’re missing the point by a mile. It’s not about physical attraction, finances, or even the types of men just looking for a one-night stand. There are many men who want to be in long-term relationships, but don’t put in the effort necessary to keep that relationship alive and healthy.

    Men benefit from long-term relationshipsbmore than women; a woman’s workload actually increases because she’s usually the one tasked with managing the home and all of the emotional and physical labor that comes with that… even when she already has a full-time job.

    In order for a woman to want to be with a man, he needs to positively affect her life overall. So many men simply do not do that. That is the barrier to entry, and it is far from an unreasonable one. It’s generally easier and more desirable to be single than it is to be in a relationship with a man.




  • Thank you! I appreciate it. I don’t really have particularly severe chronic pain, but my SO does, so I’m familiar with how hard it can be to get serious pain relief and how horribly frustrating that can be.

    imo, it’s cruel whether the pain is chronic or acute. I guess I get why they’re so stingy, but there needs to be a lot more grace for pain patients. It’s not just about pain, but mental health, too. :/

    I was definitely a little surprised and annoyed about it. Clearly there’s no questioning the fact that I’ll be in significant pain for (at minimum) a month, so why are you giving me only 6 days’ worth? Are decent scripts reserved for only the people who are literally on their death bed???






  • The fact that I had several points (in a single comment, mind you) does not mean that they keep changing. I suggest you revisit what moving goalposts actually means.

    It’s been my experience that it takes less time and money to make a healthy meal at home. I don’t know why that’s a problem to you.

    That’s been my experience, too. Like I’ve already said, I frequently cook cheap, healthy meals at home. I rarely eat fast food.

    But my original points aren’t centered around my—or your—personal experience; we’re not the only two people who exist. Everyone has varying degrees of resources and ability.


  • Thanks for asking! Right now I’m still just waiting around; I need surgery because of the nature of the break and its interference with my rotator cuff, but I need an MRI/follow-up before it can be scheduled. So it won’t be until at least the 23rd.

    I had some deep-tissue bruises that hurt even more than my shoulder for a while, which made it hard to walk, but they finally mostly healed.

    My shoulder isn’t too bad if I don’t move it, but it actually hurts a lot more than usual this morning. The doctor only gave me a few of the weakest non-OTC painkillers you can get, so I’ve had to ration them for when the pain is at its worst. So I’m relying on acetaminophen and ibuprofen, which doesn’t really cut it tbh.