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  • When you look for things to be angry about, when you look for things to be resentful about, you find them.

    When you look for things to be satisfied with, when you look for things to be grateful for, you find them.

    I found the opposite. I have achieved far, far more through practising gratitude, knowing my values and moving towards them rather than being pressure and goal oriented.

    I went for a walk this morning, in a park near my house. It was cold and grey, so.i was grateful for my gloves and for the solitude. How good is it that I can go for a walk, in a park near my house? Hear birds, breathe air see trees, smell the frost? How good that there are parks, and birds, and it’s safe, and I can walk. I want to keep doing it. I’m grateful for that.


  • macrocarpa@lemmy.worldtomemes@lemmy.worldEvery day.
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    16 days ago

    Like I said, gratitude is hard.

    It is hard to have gratitude when there is inequality

    It is hard to have gratitude when competition is encouraged and enshrined by people who benefit from it

    It is hard to have gratitude when the constructs in which we live seem unjust

    It is hard to wake up and look around and find something to be grateful for

    It is hard to be grateful when all you can see is what you don’t have

    Being genuinely appreciative of what you do have leads to a quieter mind and a happier life. We have one life.

    It comes across as some stupid bullshit, I know. But the resentment and frustration aren’t useful. Clarity of mind and purpose is, and is more sustainable than passion and anger.

    My 2c.













  • The reason I say in person is because if the amount of information which is transmitted via direct conversation is orders of magnitude higher than through eye contact, tone, language and body language.

    If you and I were talking right now, I could maintain eye contact, rotate my shoulders so I face you, position my head in a way that says I’m listening, use my voice to indicate that I’m contrite, or uncomfortable, or supportive.

    It can be excruciatingly uncomfortable for people who are used to having virtual tools abstract away the hard parts of interaction. But that’s exactly what (in this case) women are saying they feel. They feel, in the real world, they’re not safe. To me, the weight of that comes from a direct interaction rather than a news article or twitter post.

    My opinion etc