Update: In light of the programming.dev update here https://programming.dev/post/8399272, the defederation is no longer going ahead.

However, something more needs to be said. Even here on Blahaj, some of our users took issue with the choice to defederate over this issue.

So I would like to give some background and context.

Blahaj Zone exists, because both Kaity and I left mainstream social media to escape transphobia. Reddit, with its lackluster approach to fighting transphobia, and twitter, with its outright celebration of transphobia pushed us here, to the fediverse, and to create Blahaj Zone and Blahaj Lemmy.

To that end, we will continue to treat transphobia seriously. Our goal is to create a space where gender diverse folk can exist and let our defenses down a little, where we don’t have to worry about getting dragged in to an argument with a transphobe, or a bad faith actor “just asking questions”.

If you are looking for a more reddit like experience, where in the interest of increased engagement, we let low level transphobia slide, and push responsibility for dealing with it on to community mods and individual users, then you will likely not be happy with blahaj going forward. If you choose to stay here, understand that we may defederate again in the future over similar issues.

The choice is yours.

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It has recently been brought to my attention that the lead admin of programming.dev is engaging in ongoing transphobia.

You can see the conversation in question here https://programming.dev/comment/6131539

For that reason we will be defederating from programming.dev in 48 hours.

There are only three communities on that instance used by small number of our users, so this won’t have a big impact, but if you are one of those users, you will need to use an alt account on another instance if you wish to access the communities.

  • Fal@yiffit.netEnglish
    13·
    11 months ago

    * with the exception of telling a trans person that her pronouns are unimportant, which I won’t defend

    But this isn’t what happened. He said that it isn’t reasonable to get offended at being referred to as “they” because not all clients show names the same way, and there’s no reasonable way for him to know what pronouns to use.

    • Feathercrown@lemmy.worldEnglish
      5·
      11 months ago

      Sorry, they really aren’t prominently displayed everywhere.

      Reasonable and respectful

      And getting offended by it really isn’t helping your case here.

      Less reasonable and respectful, depending on interpretation could be meant in the context of the misunderstanding or meant in general. This is a very sensitive topic for people and dismissing it like this is not a good move, even if you don’t think it’s transphobia-- which is valid, definitions vary widely, I’m not sure it would fit my own even. People were defining it fairly broadly and I’m not getting into a definitions argument here so I went with their definitions for now.