I need some advice from the internet;
I haven’t been dating for quite a few years now, but I’m finally in a position where I can think about this kind of stuff. I’m a chef that regularly visits my local dispensery after work. Partly because of the cute girl working there with whom I’ve been chatting quite a bit recently. Last week we stood there chatting for over 10 minutes while she left her colleague to help the other customers there. She says her and a friend are coming over to lunch at the place I work at next week. It’s not like she’s been giving me super obvious signs (or I’m just oblivious to them, which I’m not ruling out), but again, she’s super cute.
Is it appropriate for me to ask her out for a drink? I honestly don’t know if I should or not. It does feel kinda weird asking someone out at their place of work and I don’t want to put her in an awkward situation.
While I get that things are different across genders, my first date out of high school was a girl who asked me out while I was working (in fact, I’ve never dated a person I met outside of school or my or their work). My dad asked my mom out while she was working. Everyone meets people at work, it’s where we spend the vast majority of our time out of the house; and the same people who say you shouldn’t approach women at their place of work say the same thing about the gym, the store, and public transit.
I find that when (many) young women say “I don’t like it when men do X” (such as, “ask me out while I’m working”), they really just mean guys who are (1) way too old, (2) overly persistent, or (3) complete strangers. If you roughly fit within the “half your age plus seven” rule, and she’s spoken to you longer than she is contractually obligated to by her job, you’re probably in the clear to offer to give her your number and to let you know if she wants to grab lunch sometime.