• Hot Saucerman@lemmy.mlEnglish
    1001·
    11 months ago

    You don’t gotta get high on drugs to be comfortable with your own weird vibe.

  • Duamerthrax@lemmy.ml
    311·
    11 months ago

    Does this happen? I think I’ve only experienced something close to this in high school, but never as an adult. Normally, people around me are either supportive or indifferent about someone learning new skills.

    • MrDrProfKelev@eviltoast.orgEnglish
      25·
      11 months ago

      Yes, it does, especially when it’s something people think is weird. I am a guy in my 20’s and recently started learning to knit and I still have people telling me not to do it because it’s weird. You just have to do what you want to do and give 0 fucks about what others think

      • skinless_corpus@lemmy.world
        6·
        10 months ago

        Knit your heart out man! I’m a guy in his 40s who always wanted to get a physics degree. So I’ve bought a bunch of textbooks. Still at the beginning and learning calculus.

    • masterspace@lemmy.caEnglish
      11·
      11 months ago

      People hate on stuff all the time. How many people do you know who have made a derisive joke about people who hang truck nuts or something similar?

      Yucking others’ yum is an incredibly common occurrence.

    • Obi@sopuli.xyz
      8·
      10 months ago

      Sure, people are gonna be supportive, but there’s definitely a peer pressure along the lines of “but how is it gonna make you rich or famous” in way too many fields.

    • Xero@lemmy.worldEnglish
      4·
      11 months ago

      when does it not happen? as long as you don’t enjoy the same thing as other people, they will judge you

    • sibannac@sh.itjust.works
      4·
      10 months ago

      I think a lot of people use this as a way to start a conversation about what the person is doing and don’t think to ask it in a less confrontational way. Some people can’t handle seeing someone doing something that they thought they can’t or shouldn’t do. Most people don’t care or see another person doing what they please and respect that.

    • Fixbeat@lemmy.mlEnglish
      26·
      11 months ago

      Being yourself around everyone is easier said than done, but the more you can do it, the happier you will be. Getting older naturally makes it easier for most people. That’s part of the reason older people are happier.

      • oatscoop@midwest.socialEnglish
        6·
        11 months ago

        I went to a renaissance faire recently with some friends. We dressed up, drank booze, watched a few “shows”, and wandered around – it was a blast.

        It’s something I would have been mortified to admit to doing in my teens or 20s.

        • grue@lemmy.ml
          8·
          11 months ago

          We dressed up, drank booze…

          I’ve never quite understood the appeal of ren faires, mainly because I’m frugal and I always felt like there wasn’t much to do except buy stuff. Reading your comment, I think there might be a key step or two that I overlooked.

          • oatscoop@midwest.socialEnglish
            4·
            11 months ago

            It also helps to go to a larger one that also caters to adults. Some of the shows we went to were clearly not for kids.

            • grue@lemmy.ml
              31·
              11 months ago

              Frankly, I don’t need to worry about ren faires at this point; I’m going to get plenty of that sort of entertainment going to Dragon Con instead.

    • Jackiedoodle@lemmy.world
      19·
      11 months ago

      Sometimes it’s good to care. If someone is saying you’re acts are immoral irresponsible or genuinely with your interests in mind you should listen and make a decision. If its someone saying you’re being odd or being weird they’re projecting their own self consciousness to stand out from the crowd.

      • pinkdrunkenelephants@sopuli.xyz
        24·
        11 months ago

        People can and will argue that whatever you’re doing they don’t like or inconveniences them is immoral to manipulate you into not doing it.

        They’ll even twist morality around to mean that you can’t act with confidence or do anything different from what they want.

        So no one should take morality arguments seriously either

  • Stephbro@feddit.nl
    17·
    10 months ago

    Absolutely. I hate having to justify everything I do. Sometimes I just want to do something for the fun of it.