• hackris@lemmy.ml
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    10 months ago

    After being friends with her for a year, one year less than the amount of time I had a massive crush on her, I asked her out. She rejected me, but we agreed to stay friends and she assured me that nothing happened and we can continue like before. However, I now feel like I’m being used (or how do you say it). She doesn’t talk to me as much, only contacts me when she has a tech problem. That doesn’t seem like a friendship. When I confronted her, she said she wasn’t ghosting me, stopped for like a week, then continued.

    I still think about her every day.

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      10 months ago

      Ah, man, this hurts a lot. It appears that you were keen in helping her with whatever kind of problems, personal or business, but she wasn’t in a reciprocal place.

      Sometimes after a failed confession, the reality of course doesn’t match your expectation. I just ask myself that if it’s someone else, what I would expect from them in the response of friends helping each other out. She might truly be using you, or anyone who fell into her trap.

      I’m not saying she’s an abusive woman but those definitely exist. Glad you made your way out.