I think thats a valid stance overall, but as is often the case with useful FOSS, there are thousands of demands with only so many people actually helping in anyway. The demands can easy overwhelm a dev who at some point made something useful “just because.” To go from “I wanted to make something that helped” to “I have 5000 people making demands” is an immense strain, and one that kills FOSS, even very good FOSS, all the time.

I think if you are one of the people donating money, you can have more direct issues, because you are paying into lemmy to make it better. I think if you submit pull requests or bug reports or write documentation for lemmy, you can lean into complaints more.

If you are on lemmy, offering nothing to improve it, then you need to temper your frustrations a ways and realize the devs are just as entitled to not have the “thing you want done” as anyone else.

They very well may have needed to take a break from lemmy dev to avoid burnout, or maybe they are waiting on the their peer or something else to push forward on “feature X.” Maybe this federated wiki has future lemmy features they wanted to test. None of us know, and honestly anyone not lending a hand doesnt have the right to demand anything.