Truly a pretty terrible place for any kind of social activity.

People here are super self righteous and unwavering in their beliefs, quick to insult others and be generally bitchy, pedantic and quick to dogpile. Worst of all while still usually slightly wrong about a thing, but unwilling to hear it.

It’s basically the worst parts of reddit users where we have boiled it down to the most affluent or socially insecure.

Even if it’s as simple as a question people jump to defend their position with insults rather than answer it cause they get worried the person might be confused and it’s best to just make sure it’s a closed community as quick as possible.

This isn’t an open community it’s a private gated one where everyone jumped the fence and is scared that the wrong person might have come in with them.

Condescending is not welcoming.
Upvoting cause they are your in group isn’t community.
Berating outcasts cause you at least don’t feel like them is still bullying.

  • Boozilla@lemmy.worldEnglish
    51·
    20 days ago

    There is indeed a LOT of bitchy pedantry on here. I’m not sure it’s worse than other platforms, because this is the only one I’ve been using for a while now. I block very aggressively and that seems to help.

    Sorry you’re not having fun on Lemmy, I do get it. For some reason reddit keeps failing upwards and we’re not getting the influx of users I was hoping for. I’m still hanging in here but participating less and less.

    • Blaze (he/him)@sopuli.xyzEnglish
      8·
      20 days ago

      For some reason reddit keeps failing upwards and we’re not getting the influx of users I was hoping for.

      Inertia is directly related to how big their userbase is. And they pretty much killed all the text-based discussion forums.

      So I’m not hopeful we’ll get another influx that soon. People staying on Reddit will prefer to fix their personal API key every day to use a 2 years old Lemmy or Sync apk rather than try Lemmy.

      • Boozilla@lemmy.worldEnglish
        5·
        20 days ago

        I’m also starting to think social media plus human nature = inherently bad combo. It’s not always bad, but it trends that way over time and at large scales.

        Real identity social media is bad because creepy corporations track your every move and people post fake and highly curated profiles.

        Anonymous social media is bad because too many people behave like unfiltered belligerent asholes.

        • Krauerking@lemy.lolOPEnglish
          32·
          20 days ago

          People suck. Basically always hoping there is someone beneath them to feel better for treating them worse.

          It’s probably best to be in a situation where you can still get socked in the mouth for acting like a jerk while people are having a conversation.

      • Krauerking@lemy.lolOPEnglish
        22·
        20 days ago

        Hahaha yeah the whole API key thing was what pushed me to Lemmy.

        The first time I got “you have used the maximum amount of posts blah blah blah” I was done with reddit… But then I found out that I’m having a lot less fun.

        I have to participate in the big communities and with awful people if I don’t want to be alone in an empty community.

    • Krauerking@lemy.lolOPEnglish
      23·
      20 days ago

      Honestly Facebook is even better just cause it’s people putting on the clown makeup to get a ride from you. Apparently they pay pretty well for those stupid community posts if you get enough attention.

      It doesn’t feel as self righteous at least is my point. People here deeply assume themselves smarter than anyone else here.

      I saw people dogpile a comment cause the first person in a chain misread it and assumed correctly and every comment trying to pull people out of the spiral was downvoted and shouted at for being wrong as they tore each other apart.

      It’s like chickens seeing another chicken bleeding. They don’t even think before they tear their kin to shreds.

      • Boozilla@lemmy.worldEnglish
        3·
        20 days ago

        For whatever it’s worth, I’ve had some very positive interactions on here, too. And I’ve seen questions answered when people needed help. And generally useful info types of posts. The comics and memes are often good (if you like those, those are not everyone’s cup of tea). Anyway, it’s not all jackasses all the time on Lemmy.

        • Krauerking@lemy.lolOPEnglish
          32·
          20 days ago

          It’s not worth nothing. I just wish I figured out how to get it not to be the majority without having to silence the spaces where people are.