I was just mopping about the whole situation with her and Cobain. Here you have this talented, autistic, heteroflexible musician, lovingly married to this other talented queer musician, and people blame her for Kurt’s death because they needed to blame someone. They couldn’t just pay their respects and admit that they didn’t understand. They can’t accept that nobody needs to be blamed, with themselves and society as a whole being the only force that deserves any of it, if only for making such an unsupportive world for people like Cobain and Love.
I mean, even if you set aside Kurts death, I’m not sure anyone should be looking at Courtney Love as a role model.
Role models are complex. For example, my late best friend is a huge role model for me: he was always in his friends corner, and was tremendously kind and dependable; he was also a dumbass who was overly focussed on everyone else’s wellbeing, meaning that he’d ignore his own struggles until he couldn’t anymore, and then he found it hard to communicate his needs or accept help from the droves of people who loved him and would jump at the chance to support him. I think sometimes the best role-models often have a hefty dose of anti-role-model in them too; in the case of my friend, my goal is to emulate his virtues while avoiding the pitfalls he so often ran into.
She’s definitely a wild child and a bit batshit but probably also the victim of media smear campaigns, considering that she was one of the first to ever call out people like Harvey Weinstein, long before metoo.