• Jake Farm@sopuli.xyz
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    8 months ago

    The whole world is turning into incels. Its not that there is no one to fuck but that everyone has crippling social anxiety.

  • TheSlad@sh.itjust.works
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    Embracing the solitude after 7 years of a toxic relationship has been a blissful realization i tell ya hwhat.

    I feel like i am finally my true self instead of having to conform to someone else’s notion of what a “boyfriend” should be. I turned 30 this year and i dont think ive peaked yet. The best is yet to come and my confidence is sky high.

    Sorry ladies, I’m taken. By the handsome man above my bathroom sink.

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      God do I envy your mindset. I can’t even look in the mirror without wanting to strangle the ugly pile of human trash that I see reflected back at me.

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        Loving yourself is hard. I used to think, “I just need to change/improve, then I’ll be someone I can love,” but I realized that is putting the cart before the horse. You can’t change or improve until you love yourself, because the reality is that when you change or improve, you are still the same person you were, just with new skills, a new haircut, new clothes, whatever. That person you hate never goes away. You just have to love them as they are, and accepts their shortcomings and flaws.

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    Reminds me of my favorite Kurzgesagt video: Optimistic Nihilism

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    It is said that comparing yourself to others is not a good idea. Instead, compare yourself to your old self.

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    Sometimes you can find peace in the strangest ways and places!

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    As an autist in solitude for 8-9 years who has had a long term romantic relationship for 7-8 years. The overall happiness level for me has been slightly better single and abstinent. There are positives and negatives from both ways of life but happiness does usually equalize

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    Parted from kin, banished to a lonely place, I wonder why my heart feels so little anguish and pain.

    Consulting Zhuang Zi (daoist writer), I find where I belong. Surely my home is there in Not-Even-Anything land.

    Po Zhou Yi, 815 AD.

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    8 months ago

    After a couple of bad relationships, I stopped caring about getting married, it took a weight off my back.

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    8 months ago

    Meh, I just found some locals in the SW community, turns out being good with your mouth makes you a well liked enough client to start making legit friends