Update: In light of the programming.dev update here https://programming.dev/post/8399272, the defederation is no longer going ahead.

However, something more needs to be said. Even here on Blahaj, some of our users took issue with the choice to defederate over this issue.

So I would like to give some background and context.

Blahaj Zone exists, because both Kaity and I left mainstream social media to escape transphobia. Reddit, with its lackluster approach to fighting transphobia, and twitter, with its outright celebration of transphobia pushed us here, to the fediverse, and to create Blahaj Zone and Blahaj Lemmy.

To that end, we will continue to treat transphobia seriously. Our goal is to create a space where gender diverse folk can exist and let our defenses down a little, where we don’t have to worry about getting dragged in to an argument with a transphobe, or a bad faith actor “just asking questions”.

If you are looking for a more reddit like experience, where in the interest of increased engagement, we let low level transphobia slide, and push responsibility for dealing with it on to community mods and individual users, then you will likely not be happy with blahaj going forward. If you choose to stay here, understand that we may defederate again in the future over similar issues.

The choice is yours.

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It has recently been brought to my attention that the lead admin of programming.dev is engaging in ongoing transphobia.

You can see the conversation in question here https://programming.dev/comment/6131539

For that reason we will be defederating from programming.dev in 48 hours.

There are only three communities on that instance used by small number of our users, so this won’t have a big impact, but if you are one of those users, you will need to use an alt account on another instance if you wish to access the communities.

  • CJOtheReal
    40·
    6 months ago

    Hexbear isn’t calling out transpobia they use it as fighting word and make it meaningless, just like everything they do or touch.

    • kristina (she/her)@lemmy.blahaj.zone
      11·
      6 months ago

      This is transphobic, almost all the people in that thread that are responding are trans, and as you can see by this thread and the other thread, the trans people on this site agree with the ones on hexbear on this issue

      Trans people have a right to call out transphobia

      • CJOtheReal
        18·
        6 months ago

        Eh… I’d say thats a bunch of personal attacks being thrown around with some transpobic wording because its a “good” attack point in a enraged debate.

            • kristina (she/her)@lemmy.blahaj.zone
              9·
              6 months ago

              Ok, all of those are trans people responding to someone who misgendered a user and used transphobic talking points? You’re allowed to be angry and make personal attacks against transphobes, transphobia itself is a personal attack against all trans people

                • kristina (she/her)@lemmy.blahaj.zone
                  9·
                  6 months ago

                  And he responded

                  Sorry, they really aren’t prominently displayed everywhere. And getting offended by it really isn’t helping your case here.

                  A sorry was enough, doubling down and complaining about trans people being offended is transphobia

                  • CJOtheReal
                    10·
                    6 months ago

                    You don’t need to be offended every time someone uses the wrong pronounce… Especially when you get proof that its not intentionally. Just say please adress me as [she/him/they…] and don’t play victim over something that insignificant

                    He is right in saying that it ain’t helping the case, wich is objectively correct.

                  • CJOtheReal
                    6·
                    6 months ago

                    Everyone is bro. Bro is gender neutral. Be glad i dont Bruh you!

      • CJOtheReal
        14·
        6 months ago

        Some might but the majority of that instance is brigaders that like to disrupt everything.

          • CJOtheReal
            7·
            6 months ago

            I have a blahaj account, just saw the post with another one first.

            Also im not brigading at all, im just voicing my opinion (or stating facts) here and awnsering comments like yours

                • GarfGirl [she/her]@lemmy.blahaj.zone
                  21·
                  6 months ago

                  saying that the trans people getting annoyed at someone for misgendering them are overreacting / just trying to start an argument

                  Misgendering a hexbear user and when she politely asks you not to do that doubling down that actually it wasnt misgendering

                  Posting a right wing meme accusing someone who disagrees of being a child who’s comparing you to hitler

                  🤔

        • Good Girl [she/they]@lemmy.blahaj.zone
          51·
          6 months ago

          brigading is when lemmy federates posts across communities so that when something hits the front page a lot of people from an active community reply to it.