Whilst this is not a local only post/community, it is primarily intended for blahaj lemmy members. Top level replies from non blahaj accounts will be removed.
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I want to take the moment to clarify the Blahaj Lemmy position on things, given recent events and the fallout that has followed. This will give people the chance to decide for themselves if blahaj zone lemmy is the right space for them, or if it doesn’t meet their needs.
First and foremost, blahaj zone lemmy exists to give a space for queer folk to exist, with their needs explicitly protected as the highest priority, and with a particular focus on the needs of gender diverse folk. Most lemmy instances are not run by trans folk, and whilst many are still inclusive, they don’t always prioritise our needs. Others barely consider trans folk, and react only to the most blatant of bigotry.
We are not a political instance, however political communities have a space here, as does any community that is actively protective of the needs of queer and gender diverse folk. Given the impact of politics on gender diverse folk, that means lots of dialogue and strong opinions exist, and as long as those opinions are honestly held, and not bigoted or exclusive, people are welcome to have and express those opinions here.
For what it’s worth, I am a member of the Greens Party in Australia. I have no time for the middle ground politics of the Australian Labor party, let alone the right wing beliefs of the Australian Liberal party. Yet a community of queer Labor Party aligned folk would fit on blahaj lemmy, because the parties ideologies, are not explicitly anti queer. A community aligned with the Australian Liberal party likely would not have a place here, unless the goal of the community was to work at actively challenging the anti queer policies of the party.
That being said, political communities (or any other communities) that exist solely to target and take aim at other queer folk have no place here either. The goal of blahaj lemmy is queer inclusion, and a community whose sole goal is division, will be removed.
The downside to this is that as we assume good faith in members and we don’t gatekeep or deny access to people because of their pronouns or gender identity, (even when those identities are challenging to many) it is possible for bad faith actors to take advantage of our inclusive policies. Unfortunately, that’s just something we are going to have to navigate as it occurs, because I won’t let bad faith folk push this instance to defaulting to exclusion or gatekeeping the validity of someone’s identity. I will respect a trolls pronouns even as I ban them, because to not do so, normalises the idea that pronouns are something that are earned by good behaviour, or that other people have a say in the validity of another person’s identity and pronouns.
So that’s where we stand. Hopefully this will help people decide for themselves whether or not this is the right instance for them.
As a spectator with no stake in what happened, except of course wanting people to feel comfortable, I feel like two things were still left unaddressed:
It looked like the owner of the affected community was driven out by something that almost resembled a witch hunt, with accusations that appeared to be unfounded or even maliciously pushed by people opposing the views or moderation style of the community.
There was a particular user who stood out to me because they tried to respond to as many posts as possible, seemingly fueling the drama, or at least actively pushing their opinion on everyone. I feel like this is not the appropriate way to interact in such a forum, nor healthy for that individual.
What did the admins do or are planning to do in regards to these concerns?
That’s not something I can speak to from an admin perspective. I wasn’t active in the community, and unless it was reported or otherwise brought to my attention, I saw very little of it, so I don’t really have a great sense of Links specific reasons for departing.
What I do know, is that Links left on good terms with me, and expressed thanks for the blahaj community.
There were two users at the center of much of the recent drama. One has recently been banned and their communities removed, after it became clear that their goals were divisive and targeted.
I’ve spoken to the other user privately, and addressed some of the issues that arose, and since then, I’ve seen no indication that the problems have re-surfaced.
That’s as much detail as I’m willing to go in to on moderation of individuals.
I’m from lemm.ee (because of its anti-defederation stance; I want the whole firehose of as many Lemmy instances as possible) but I’ve always felt especially comfortable seeing and interacting with content and users from your instance.
And I’m incredibly grateful that you are actually trying to accommodate it/its identities, because I definitely am one. I recognize difficulty in actually asking others to refer to me as such because they’re used to “it” being disrespectful and cruel, or if they’re the kind of person who would call someone an “it” to insult them, I’d be outing myself as the kind of being they don’t want to talk to. But when I see you making an effort… It means the world to me 💜
The friends of mine have gotten used to that aspect of me… Every time they refer to me this way, I feel so… Just … Good? Good! Seen, heard, acknowledged, understood, known. It matters :3
Thank you for running blåhaj zone. It’s my favorite by far. Maybe I might even switch instances, but it’d be more convenient if it didn’t come to that.
edit: is there a donation link? I must be lost in plain sight. I’d like to contribute a little material support…
Edit again: FOUND IT! :D
Regarding what I called a “witch hunt”, it seemed like some users quickly jumped on board accusing the previous owner of the libertyhub community of intentionally misgendering a user, when it appeared to be a singular slip up (“you” instead of “You”), that he quickly apologized for and fixed. Maybe there were valid concerns regarding the moderation of that community and it was indeed the right choice for the owner to step down – I am totally missing the context for this – but I felt like there was a large focus on the wrong issue that might’ve driven him away from Lemmy.
To make it as clear as I can, I had nothing to do with Links leaving. I defended the right for his community to have a place on blahaj zone several times in response to requests to remove it. I explicitly stood by his moderation decisions, and as long as his moderation didn’t breach the instance guidelines, he was welcome to moderate in the way he best saw fit. I didn’t take action against his accidental misgendering of another user, because the post was removed even before I saw it, and the misgendering wasn’t a pattern of repeated behaviour. It seemed to me to be a mistake, and one that he later apologised for.
Which is all to say, he had my support, and I didn’t ask him to leave or encourage him to.
Did somebody really get bent out of shape over capitalization? Have they been outside?
As someone driving a cab while being trans, I can’t even conceive of this level of micromanagement. I’m happy if people make the effort to correct themselves when they misgender me, which happens regularly. I can’t imagine trying to be that specific that I’m worried about grammar or stylistic choices that have literally nothing to do with gender.
Capitalization is not a trans rights issue.