I’m looking to meet new people and find new friends.
What are some places to go to meet new people and maybe find new friends?
I’ve been trying to find new friends through various discord channels.
But I’m not actually on any social media like twitter, Facebook, Instagram etc. But was thinking of creating an account on these platforms to meet new people.
So yeah I guess share some places where you have had success in meeting new people.
Ultimately the best way to meet people, and especially to grow and maintain those connections, is to have the same hobbies as them.
Do you like sports? Join an adult league Do you like reading? Join a book club Do you like tabletop games? Use Reddit’s r/LFG, or look for a local meetup group, and find some people there.
Ultimately it’s hard to make new friends when you have nothing to tie you to them long term.
People have set routines, and it can be difficult to have them make time for a stranger initially.
But if you join group doing something you enjoy, you already a part of their lives through that. You also have an easy source of conversation, talking about whatever your joint interest is.
tl;dr: regular consistent propinquity is required
Translation for those like me who have never seen that word before (and I considered myself pretty well read): Propinquity:
- Proximity or nearness
- Kinship
- Similarity in nature
Came here to say this. Just get out and do the thing that you enjoy amongst others that enjoy the same thing. The key thing is to do a regularly, like every weekend. You will absolutely meet people this way.
The quickest way to find new friends is to get a find a social activity you find fun and look around you area for places to do it. Like a certain sport? Look for an amateur league. Like a hobby, search for meetups for that hobby.
The trick here is that you already have a common interest that you can talk about.
For example, I like playing pool. I can go to a bar with a table or any pool hall, and I’ll be able to make new friends while playing a few games.
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Possibly, but it is indeed also possible to have multiple hobbies, and also to have certain hobbies just because the hobby itself is only “ok” but the people are cool.
I dunno but my neighbor likes piracy.
Pwease we will hoard data together in peace 🥺 clean and mount server racks together too!
If you are looking for friends in the real world, I don’t think online spaces are the place to find them. Unless of course they use online spaces to arrange IRL meetings.
What are you interested in?
Where do you live? (Genrerally, don’t dox yourself here…)
As this will help people give better advice.
If, for example you like D&D, find out where a local groups meet or those looking for new members.
Or
Get involved in the local community.
Does the local library have a book club, language groups or other activities?
If you are an outdoors person, look for a local hiking or bushwalking club or a local community garden.
Lowe’s or Home Depot looking at paint samples. Also, the grocery store.
Do you just hover near the paint samples waiting for someone else to walk up? Do the staff ask why you’re painting so often?
Not there that much plus they are busy.Ask someone “What do you rhink of this color” or “What color is this?”
I would say, “It’s green. Haven’t you seen green before? You don’t know what green is?”
There are like hundreds of green colors, all called a certain name in the paint shop :)
But what if I don’t have a big sausage, Jimmy?
I’ll share! 😈
We can’t all be Jimmy.
“What color is this?”
The colors are usually labeled
Lemmings really don’t have social skills. Jfc.
I just avoid new people.
Concerts, local volunteer activities, pub trivia, community events…
Concerts?! How? I like interacting with the people around me and we’ll share some jokes, but I’ve never talked to them again
I have some good friends I met through concerts.
There are a couple smaller venues that fit a few hundred people that I frequent. When you catch a lot of shows in a particular genre and the crowd’s that small you’ll start to see some familiar faces at each show. You already have something in common which makes it easier to strike up a conversation.
One band I like plays three nights at this large amphitheatre every year, and you basically have to camp there since there aren’t any hotels nearby. So I’ve also met friends out there since you get a whole weekend to hang out and if you go every year you run into other people who go every year.
Usually I can barely hear the people right next to me talking at concerts…
Talk in between songs/bands. Ask if they want to hang out after the show. Ask for their phone number to talk later.
Start smoking. It’s quieter out there and you’ve got a built-in conversation starter (“do you have a lighter.”)
before i left reddit i actually found an online friend that i still play games with over a year later on the “gamer pals” subreddit. It’s not easy, and i actually played with another guy before that who just didn’t click with me, but i powered through and tried until i got somebody that i got along with more smoothly. it was the only time i ever looked for a friend online, but i didn’t really have any in real life anymore at that point, so it was something i knew i needed and it was worth the awkwardness and failed attempts.
I don’t.
Public events, usually. Things like parades, church, school events, etc.
If you are able to, join a gym, dance class, language class, bike or Jog club, theater class, hiking group etc. A place that people would go to talk about a specific subject is always good to meet people. Just do something that really interests you or it will get old quick.
Facebook is not good, but people still use instagram to keep in contact, but only if you meet in person first. Online friends are like buying clothes in a good will, you will have to look a lot to find someone and they may not “fit” you.
Bars and pubs are ok but mostly ppl go there with friends and you may look like a creep if you just aproach ppl alone out of nowhere. Also many are drunk and wont remember you, it’s not a real friend
I think I’m too tired. I thought you said to join a “luggage class”. For about 2 seconds I was trying to figure out how a luggage class would work.
Join some kind of org that’s in a niche you enjoy. Enjoy planes? Join AOPA. Engineer planes? Join AIAA. Like programming? There tend to be a bunch of local meetups. Into left wing politics? You could join the DSA or the IWW or the PSL, etc.
Honestly though I’ve found the best way to make new friends is to meet them through your current friends.
I’m an introvert, and what I’ve found so far to make it not too awkward is to join groups of people with a common interest.
You love D&D? Try finding a group to play with in your city.
You like what you do for a loving? Maybe there’s a Meetup on a topic related to your expertise.
You love cycling or running? There might be Facebook groups of people in your city who enjoy this and do organize events.
Bars or weird niche sports. Join a frisbee golf team or something. No one expects quality from you and people are generally good.
I’m going to a protest
I chat to other people at the supermarket, dog park, coffee shop. Anywhere that people have similar interests to you is a good place to meet people.
“Oh, nice! I also love potatoes…”
“Yes I too also require food regularly”
“Hunger. Am I right?”
“You ever drink beverages?”
I swear you’re all the same! Disgusting!
You can be disgusted? Me too, being awful is cute!!!
I CAN AFFIRM THAT AS A FELLOW AIR-BREATHING HUMAN BEING, MY BODY ALSO REQUIRES SUSTENANCE IN THE FORM OF COMPLEX ORGANIC CHEMICALS.
“… and I must say, your potatoes are particularly nice”
“May I?”
::: crunch! :::
“Perfect! Just like I expected”
wink
“Never heard of a potato, looks pretty good”
Insert Captain America meme here
I understood that reference.
